So there has been a whole lot of hullabaloo about the Thank You Note this week, so I thought I would revisit the issue. I have done a great deal of thinking on this issue, prompted in part by the uproar caused by my first post, and in part because I am always yearning to better myself. I have decided that I don't hate the Thank You Note...my eyes have been opened by Kimber and Sazymae and numerous other people (I would be remiss to leave out my mom). That doesn't mean that the hate is gone from my heart; it just means that I have finally discovered what the hatred really is. I hate that expectation that I am supposed to write you a Thank You Note. If it really is about the rainbows and butterflies feeling that you get (as Sazymae writes so eloquently here), then that is fine, but you do it because you want to, not because I gave you something and I expect it from you. And if you are afraid to be socially awkward by asking whether someone received the gift (as Kimber so brilliantly wrote to here), then you probably aren't good enough friends with the person to get a gumdrops and cupcakes feeling inducing TYN. In that case, you are expecting a TYN as confirmation?! No, not at all. That doesn't work for me. So ultimately, I get why people would want to send them...I still don't get why people expect them. I am sure the debate will continue on.
Here Endeth the Lesson Point Oh.
3 comments:
I'm still on your side
I AM good friends with the person, but it is TACKY!
Having just written so many TY recently, I think my biggest issue is feeling disingenuous when I am saying thank you for something I hate. I understand that I am thanking the gifter for the thought, but you can't say that. So you end up making up some crap that you don't really mean to make the gifter feel good about themselves.
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